Saturday, February 21, 2009

Blogging - part 2

This is in response to Winston's comments. It was turning into a long reply, so I figured I might as well post it as a new entry.

One purpose of a blog is for people to rant, I guess. If people have a decent rant, let's hear it. Though I still feel that blogs should be educational and informative. (which your blog, Winston, certainly is)

I have a problem with adults copying immature adolescent behavior and thinking that it's perfectly fine. ( I'm not talking about wanting to stay vital and active throughout your life.)
Who started the trend that blogs were for divulging personal information? I suppose it was a young person, because that's typical immature behavior for them. It's NOT normal behavior for an adult. That's my point. When I come across a blog written by an adult who is revealing all sorts of personal information about themsleves and their relationships, it a red flag that the author is mentally unstable and I move on. It's crossed the bounds of being a normal rant.

[btw - I don't understand the Twitter phenom either. If it's being used to spread a news story or educate in some way, fine. And if you're a 17 yr old wanting to keep in touch with your friends to let them know that you're going to Dairy Queen later, well, okay, I can understand that.
But if you're an adult and feel you need to post your daily activities on Twitter, there's something wrong with that].

This is all a sad reflection of society today, and its decline.
We expect children & adolescents and 20-somethings to be self involved and think the world cares about their lives. IOW - Narcissism is kind of normal in young people. But as people mature, they realize that it's a big world out there and they aren't the center of the universe anymore. It's what being emotionally mature is all about.
When people over the age of 30 are still so self-absorbed that they have a need or desire to tell the world about their personal day to day life expecting some kind of sympathetic response from strangers, it's pathological (btw-part of the definiton of narcissism is: "requiring excessive admiration, adulation, attention & affirmation" ; "constantly envious of others") and if this becomes a more common and accepted practice in society, we're in trouble, not just as a society, but a civilization.

Friday, February 20, 2009


I don't understand personal diary blogs. I don't have the ego for it. I have a hard enough time convincing myself to post here occasionally.
Blogs should be for sharing information; for educating others and stimulating thought and exchanging ideas.
I don't understand these personal blogs that drone on about someone's misfortunes and screwed up relationships or their latest shoe purchase.
I can kind of see a teenager or even a 20 yr old writing about their personal life & problems publicly on a blog, but once you're in your 30's, you're too old for that. If you're over 30 and still needing to regularly spill your guts to the world on a blog about your messed up life and personal problems, you've got more problems than you even realize and you seriously need a therapist or something.

What makes a person think that the rest of the world needs to hear about their very ordinary life? Is he or she writing so that strangers can pat them on the back and say "there, there Dear, everything will be alright" ?
Stop wasting bandwidth with narcissistic whining and complaining and 'woe is me' crap or your latest date or shopping venture. Get over yourself. Accept the fact that your life just isn't that interesting or important to people outside your family and circle of friends.
Everyone has problems - Yours aren't unique, and many people have problems a lot worse than you.

If you want to write, keep a diary, fine - But do it for yourself and keep it private. That's what keeping a diary or notebook of your thoughts is all about.
And, next time you get the urge to post personal details about your mundane life for the world to read, please don't. Call a friend or make an appointment with a therapist - cuz feeling like you need to put all this personal stuff out there isn't a sign of a healthy mind.